Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Favoring...


We all would have met and have been with different kinds of people from different areas with different backgrounds. But they all share something very common. I have noticed (I'm sure you would have too) that some parents favor their children. I just wanted to share some of my experiences of situations like this and their outcomes.

First, we may have to bring into our consideration, why do parents do that? It's maybe coz they don't love their children equally. After all, they are children of them. Why does this happen? Why can't they love their children equally? It's a fact that we won't love everyone the same. It's in our nature. Similarly, parents are also humans, this applies to them and they love their children differently. Some don't show it to their children, and some parents show the children how different they are from their siblings.

Most of the parents favor the eldest or the youngest in the family. Some favor their son, others their daughter. Some favor because of the skin color and some for good looking children. Regarding the skin color, we all know that there is a big difference in the world for blacks and the whites. The whites don't like the blacks. So this could be just an example. But still, eldest or youngest, white or black, son or daughter, cute or ugly, they are still children of their parents. They also need attention, care and love as equally as their brothers and sisters. Having a step-mother or a step-father is a different case. They might not love their step-children as they love their own children.

How are they being favored? From the parents view, the child who is being treated well will always be good... will not do any mistakes.... get what they want, anytime they want. It's just a matter of pointing the finger and asking for it. If they don't get what they want, the child will get stubborn and make him get it. But when the child who is not loved equally does something wrong, they will be punished and scolded. Children start to realize how different they are from each other. This result in the child who was favored being careless in taking their responsibilities and the other will do anything to get the attention and love of his parents. This is a decision the parents take without thinking for the consequences it might bring.

What the parents get after all?? Eldest or the youngest, boy or a girl, white or black, cute or ugly, after they grow up, the child who was treated will start to make their rules on things and scold parents and always ask things and will get what ever they wants from their parents, while the child who was not given attention will not ask much things from parents instead they will do things for parents and they will care and help to the parents more… What's your knowledge about this??
Pic taken from deviantart

4 comments:

appy said...

i dont think any parent is good if they are treating their children like that.whether its intentionally or unintentionally...
I jst cant belive that a mom could favor her own children after all she is the one hu faces all the pain during her pregnency for all her kids.And a parents love shud never be defined by the looks of their children. It has to be equal for each and every child of them.

cyberkid said...

but thats the world today appy...even parents do that. But the step-moms and step-dads of this generation seem to be better it seems. From all the stories I've heard, some step-parents care for their step children more. Its hard to find the truth and this article is very true cox i...well..lets say i know this stuff ;)

nadhee said...

hmm well tats one true piece of writing! anywayz all i'd say some ppl are juss lucky and others aren't :P can't really do much about it lahhh; cox if the one whose been treated bad tries to talk about it with the parent or parents they will never accept it....so better to accept wat we get rather than complainin wat we don't get...juss my point of view :D

thewildhunter said...

yeah appy as cyberkid says.. its the truth.. we cant say that they aren't doing or they won't do that.... Maybe you might not have any experience like that.. or your parents are not like that.. well even my parents never do that even though i am the only son in my family, all my sisters are treated just the way she treat me.... But now all of my sisters are grown up and except my younger sis, all are married and have kids.. And now my mum always says that she loves me more than my sisters. But she never showed us that when we were young.. the result is all of my sisters loved me a lot and everyone is so friendly and caring with each other.. But i have observed a lot of cases like that from my aunts, my friends, and so on... So its the truth, there are parents who favor their children... That's all i can say... :D